Becoming a mother is a life changing experience that is filled with excitement and wonder but also brings up overwhelming feelings, doubts and confusion. Yet new mothers often struggle with an expectation that they should experience only positive feelings. As a result, new mothers may feel alone with their questions and anxieties. They turn to the many parenting books with conflicting expert opinions, but feel they can't find their unique mother selves. As the children grow, separation, limit setting, and peer relations are also common themes.